ELEGANCE FOUNDATIONS

with Aude de Vathaire

Learn how to ACT, SPEAK and DRESS with ELEGANCE to uplift your lifestyle and confidence.

Be guided by a French Aristocrat through the foundations of true EMBODIED ELEGANCE, and discover etiquette secrets from French high society in this exclusive program.

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Have you always admired elegance from afar, but felt it was somehow out of reach, reserved for other people?

...Maybe it is something you used to feel connected to, but life got in the way, and you don't know how to get back to it without a lot of EFFORT.


Or perhaps you would LOVE to have more elegance in your life, but you think to yourself:


  • "I don't know where to begin, or what style really suits me..."


  • "I just don't have the time or energy to start that kind of change..."


  • "What will people think of me if I switch from leggings and casualwear, to more elevated outfits and new mannerisms?"


  • "I can't be elegant with my body today... Elegant people don't have a body like mine.."


  • "Elegance is expensive...I don't have the money for it."


  • "Do I genuinely deserve to enrich my life in this way, or am I being superficial?"

Don't worry. Believe it or not, I've BEEN in that place before, and my job now is to help make sure people like YOU don't STAY there!

Getting "unstuck" and unlocking your sense of elegance is POSSIBLE and ENJOYABLE.

I can show you how.

Here is what my clients say about the transformation they experienced with my program:

"You have made me realize elegance is attainable. And I love that you are providing us with the tools to find our own elegance instead of giving us a ‘recipe’ to copy.”

“It woke me up. How I’m living now, is this the life I want to live? Most of the things you’re telling I know deep down, but it is soo good to hear them and start acting and living through that reminder! Sometimes I’m loosing myself in the rush of the day or escape in my mobile phone. But your classes woke me up, so glad that I found you! 🙏🏻”

I love your work and am so grateful for giving myself the gift of Elegance Foundation. This has been an opportunity to receive and to energetically recharge. It is my intention to have this shift my life into elegance mode, of course coupled with joy in my heart.

“The sessions so far have been outstanding and resonating with every part of my being. I play and replay every session and make notes where I need to! Thank you!!”

“Thank you for teaching us that elegance is doable, that it is possible to implement it in everyday life and thank you for sharing from your heart!”

“I wanted to tell you - I'm so enjoying the Elegance program, I think that what has been a really important part of your program for me - is just feeling my individuality, and my own creativity and inclinations and feeling much more confident to do things my way.

Thank you!!"

"Your modesty, kindness, and humanity makes it so nice to listen to your classes! Your not talking from above but as an equal human with up and down days. I love your drive, it looks like you have an urge to tell it. And I love your authenticity!! Love, love, love, this all! Your doing such a good job Aude! I really think that if a lot more people should listen to your classes the world would look a little better. ❣️”

“Thank you for all your input into my life through this course. My awareness has been heightened and I am now more actively acknowledging things in my life to be grateful for. I also look for small ways to bring more beauty and joy into my daily life.


My husband and adult children have all noticed the changes and are very happy about the effect it has had on me by doing your course.


I more willingly give myself permission for self care and accept how important it really is. I look forward to replaying the lessons as I know I will be able to learn more and apply more into my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”

Years ago, when I was a young mother with three children (now I have four), my life was falling apart: health, relationships, family bonds, emotions, insecurities, past trauma, stress... I was so far away from where I WANTED to be. But I didn't feel I could CHANGE.


If you're like most of the women I've helped, and like me in the past, you think to yourself:


  • WHEN I have the energy,
  • WHEN I heal and recover,
  • WHEN I have the time,
  • WHEN I get more lucky,
  • WHEN my children are a bit older,
  • WHEN my body meets some critera,
  • WHEN I take care of my hair,
  • WHEN I love myself more,
  • WHEN I feel more CONFIDENT in front of others,
  • WHEN I know more clearly what I am going to do....

THEN...


I'll take care of myself, wear make up, work-out, invest in programs, put pretty outfits on, arrange my home, be a better mom, pay attention to my lifestyle, stop seeing the world negatively, stop considering myself a victim...


That's what I thought to myself during that difficult time. But I was wrong.


Nothing changed.

I just kept swimming in a sea of everlasting pain and frustration.

I was going about it backwards!


THE DAY I turned things around,

THE DAY I starting implementing the principles of French elegance and personal development,

THE DAY I started to give myself PERMISSION to step into more ELEGANCE, not paying attention to circumstances,

THE DAY I realized that NOW is the only time where CHANGE is POSSIBLE,


......is the day my life began to SHIFT.

And yours can too.

I didn't want to have REGRETS at the end of my life - it goes by so fast.

I realised..

NOW is the ONLY moment I have to be a pretty mother for my children; an elegant woman for my husband, friends, clients and myself..

NOW is the moment for me to CELEBRATE the life which has been given to me to live, no matter what I am going through.

NOW is the moment when I can choose between wearing leggings or a comfortable dress, to choose between feeling GOOD or bad.

NOW is when I can either "bark" at my family from across the house, OR choose to have full eye contact and connect more deeply with my loved ones..

We don't know about tomorrow. We only have TODAY.

NOW is the moment where YOUR power lies to UPLIFT YOUR LIFESTYLE and feel GOOD in a profound, heart-centered way.

So what really unlocked the shift?

What helped me concretely make it happen?

I had to work on the way I viewed the world.


I had patterns, behaviors and beliefs that were not supportive to me. They were not helping me create the life I wanted.


I needed more beauty, elegance, softness, joy, confidence and trust to connect to my worth and feel satisfied by life. I needed to move forward with enthusiasm towards more fulfillment, love and meaning.


So little-by-little, I began connecting with all the principles I had been taught from across generations in my family, all the personal development knowledge I had gained from coaches, therapists, & my studies, all my life experience, all the parts of my artistic background... it all started to come together and held me by the hand to TRANSFORM my life (and the life of my clients these past 15 years).


And do you want to know the best part? It wasn't HARD WORK. I didn't feel like I was moving through quicksand like I had felt when trying to change in the past. It was ENJOYABLE.


Then at some point, I realized I wasn't just going to do this for me.


I was going to do this for all of us.

To teach this, and teach this well, I knew I had to take it much deeper.


So I gathered ALL of my precious knowledge, tools and practices, and turned them into a life-changing program that is totally UNIQUE on the market.

It combines:


  • ELEGANCE knowledge and principles passed down from my family,
  • SELF-DEVELOPMENT concepts and tools (I am a therapist and life coach),
  • Deep heart-centered manners and etiquette from TRADITIONAL FRENCH high society.

By the end of the program, you will feel INSPIRED around elegance, much more CONFIDENT in yourself and your lifestyle - seeing OPPORTUNITIES and OPTIONS around what to wear, and what to do.


More Client Transformations

(this could be you!)

“I took this program because I turned 60 and wanted to intentionally think about building a healthy and successful next twenty years based on the integrated use of my truest self and core competencies...


What I learned during your course is that what you teach is my purest essence and base foundation in life. Your class was very successful for me. I have to say I admire your courage to do this class. Thank you for your effort and time. You have inspired me. I am an executive coach and have run my family's foundation for 17 years. This class will resonate with me as I move forward.”

"I am now allowing myself to look for ways I can bring more beauty into my life. I am also giving myself permission to honour my true self and rediscover who that is."

“Gradually, using better posture, dressing and speaking more mindfully, appreciating using scent, a better outlook all around.”

“Feeling more comfortable in my own body... Helped to deal with others negative behaviour towards me it does not bring me down anymore. Dressing differently, applying makeup again, feeling elevated and elegant.”

“I am better focused on what I want to achieve.”

“The inspiring classes from Aude helped me to find a way to a more friendly, caring, satisfying and whole life. In the rush of life and mobile phone Aude popped suddenly up. Her lovely classes gave me the little push to follow what I always knew but that needed to wake up. I’m really gratefull that I’ve found her.”

“In social situations, I feel more at ease and self-assured.”

“Your work is unique, that it offers simplicity in understanding of our emotions and new ways of being, self development and richness in our thinking, to help us understand a more personal approach to our lives to help us relax into life and cope with better standards for self development. Just so pleased our lives have crossed and at the right time when I had given up hope, I feel richer for having met you 🌸”

“Being part of this program has been a wonderful enlightening experience. Aude de Vathaire radiates a genuine authenticity that is deeply inspiring.”

“I spend time on taking care of myself every day, and pay attention to how I feel about everything I encounter in my life. But maybe more important is that I allow myself to be me.”

The ELEGANCE foundations PROGRAM is the most effective way to act, speak and dress elegantly, so that you feel CONFIDENT in all life situations and UPLIFT your lifestyle significantly!

While I saw results nearly immediately when I began to do this work, everything that I teach in this program CONTINUES to expand and support me EVERY DAY.

I'm confident it will do the same for you.

Embodying elegance in real life is VERY different to the flavour of elegance you may see on social media.


Genuine elegance has NO filters, and NO insincerity — it's about clearing your path of self-doubt and uncovering the way to your true unique essense, letting it shine brightly in every aspect of your life.

Elegance is NOT about trying to change who you are to fit in to a stiff set of standards, which make you feel AWKWARD and UNEASY in the way you carry yourself....or as if you are dressing up as somebody else for Halloween.


Living an elegant life is about giving yourself PERMISSION to GLOW.


Of course you want to adapt to circumstances, but in that range of adaptation, there are thousands of possibilities to truly BE YOU.

If you're like many of the women I've helped, this might sound a little scary! After all, many of us spend YEARS feeling "not good enough", making sure we are HIDING our true selves - not REVEALING them... And you may have absorbed rigid notions about what elegance IS and IS NOT.


  • FORGET the classic "little black dress" (I don't have one!)...
  • FORGET neutral outfits in shades of nude, black, and brown, if these don't feel like you..
  • FORGET about waiting for your dream body shape to come...
  • FORGET about wearing high heels if you don't feel great in them or they make your feet hurt...
  • FORGET about trying to be PERFECT.

I want to help you be TRULY ELEGANT, but not in such a way that it seems too far a reach because it's TOO PERFECT - you have a life to LIVE (and perfect is boring)!

You have happy days and sad days.

You have babies in your arms, pets and children to take care of..

You have work, cooking, cleaning, appointments, commuting...

You have relationships to maintain and texts to reply to...

You have sleepless nights and sore feet...

You have tired days and energetic days...


This is real LIFE, not a perfect magazine.

I will help you uplift your REAL life and REAL self:

  • For the people who SEE you in REAL LIFE;
  • For your clients and boss;
  • For your lover;
  • For your children;
  • For your guests and friends...
  • And most importantly: for YOU when you look at yourself in the mirror.

What is included in the program:

✤ Class 1 | Essence of Elegance

In this class you will learn..

• My elegance ethos.

• The three step process for instant elegance.

✤ Class 2 | Social Elegance

In this class you will learn..

• The secrets, principles and manners of 'old money' French families for elegance.

• How to be elegant without being a people pleaser, having your energy drained or feeling guilty.

• How to set healthy boundaries and say no elegantly, and show people your kindness and open heart without sounding "cheesy" or overdoing it.

✤ Class 3 | Elegance Embodied

In this class you will learn..

• The foundational exercise to embody a sense of elegance.

• How to stand confident in social interactions and conversation.

• What are some common faux pas, and how to show up without making them.

• The problem with sophistication, and the art of natural elegance and simplicity.

✤ Class 4 | Your Inherent Elegance

In this class you will learn..

• How to let your personality and creativity glow elegantly.

• How to give yourself PERMISSION to uplift your lifestyle.

• Your style: how to define attract the right outfits FOR YOU.

✤ Class 5 | Connected Elegance

In this class you will learn..

• How to deepen your love relationships.

• The foundations of chivalry and elegance between men and women.

✤ Class 6 | Q&A

In this class I will answer as many questions as possible. I want you to feel confident and at ease to step into more ELEGANCE for your life.

BONUS CONTENT (Valued at 1665€)

As my gift to you, when you sign up to the Elegance Program you will also gain access to ALL of the below workshops and programs, absolutely FREE:

✤ 'The Vortex' Program (value 555€)


In this program, I help you to feel confident and empowered to create your new lifestyle and understand the law of attraction. The culmination of 25 years of self-development, this is one of my most life-changing programs that will help you step into your true potential. This is PRICELESS, and all of my coachings stem from this program.


✤ Workshop #1 : All About Christmas (value 111€)


In this fun workshop, I share French Christmas traditions, dining and gift-giving etiquette, tips on how to manage family tensions (!), Christmas event outfits, and advice on how to manage the festive season elegantly.

✤ Workshop #2: Hair, Face and Makeup (value 111€)


In an intimate and cozy atmosphere, this workshop will inspire your approach to natural elegance. This is much more than a tutorial. In it, I share with you my personal tools and tips, face massage technique, how to determine your makeup colors, my 3 minute makeup routine, how to achieve a natural glow, and much more.


✤ Workshop #3 : Find Your Colors and Outfits (value 111€)


In this workshop, I guide you on how to find your most complimentary colors and styles, and find harmony in your outfits. The tests I provide enable you to determine the colors that truly suit YOU. You will learn how to find harmony in outfits; the do's and don't's.


✤ Workshop #4 : Uplift Your Lifestyle (value 111€)


William Morris says, "The true secret of happiness lies in taking a genuine interest in all the details of daily life." In this NEW bonus workshop, I will share specific ways to enhance those details of your day-to-day lifestyle, including routines and habits, self-care, elevating meals and interior decor style, table-settings, organisation, and much more.


✤ *NEW* Workshop #5 : Summer and Travel (value 111€)


In this brand new workshop, you will discover how to enhance your summer and travel experience so you can enter the season feeling ELEGANT yet comfortable, and craft a luxurious 5-star experience without spending more than you planned. We will cover many aspects of summer and travel, including how to choose the right swimsuit to wear, what outfits are really suited for the season, personal routines to uplift you, how to prioritise memory-making with your loved ones, and so much more to make you and your summer shine.


✤ *NEW* 21 Day ELEGANCE ACTIVATION Program (value 555€)


You know that long-lasting deep change doesn't happen overnight. And you also know that PRACTICE on a daily basis is the KEY to transformation. This is why I created a brand new program to activate the ELEGANCE within you by being at your side, LIVE, across 21 days (with replays available, too). This very special program is designed to help you embody, day after day, the elegance you desire for your life! Both practical & spiritual, giving you concrete, tangible results in front of the mirror & wisdom to enhance your confidence, mindset and posture for feeling more worthy and alive.


Aude de Vathaire

A French aristocrat dedicated to guiding you in embodying elegance in your ACTIONS, SPEECH and ATTIRE, ensuring confidence in EVERY life scenario.

I am a mother of four, a new grandmother, a therapist, life, and business coach with over 12 years' experience helping hundreds of senior executives in the Paris region. In the past, I was also an artist and painter, a parenting coach, a piano teacher.


Drawing on my extensive life and career experience, family history and proven practical tools, I will help you gain CONFIDENCE, ease and ELEGANCE through the forgotten arts of respect, honor and manners.


My goal is to support you in finding and integrating elegance into every facet of your life — whether at work, social gatherings, parenting, and while nurturing your relationships... to help you live your best life and reach your goals and dreams.

“My sincerest gratitude to you for the incredibly beneficial class you conducted. Your expertise and dedication were evident throughout the entire sessions, and I truly appreciate the effort you put into making it such a valuable learning experience.”

“I want to say thank you for the lessons and for always sharing from your heart. I love your teachings!

You make elegance approachable and doable.”

“Thanks a lot for your interesting and inspiring workshop on elegance. I enjoyed a lot memories, reminders, ideas, etc. I am pretty sure now to gain more confidence in my style every single day due to your kind principles and heart guided suggestions . That‘s great.”

“I wanted to let you know that I am really happy I signed up for your class. I wasn't sure, especially because of spending money right now, but I deeply felt it would be right for me, and it is!”

“I’m so glad to have had the opportunity to participate. I will use your wonderful suggestions every day. They have transformed my life already. This workshop was inspirational and simply lovely. You did a marvelous presentation.

I love your work and am so grateful for giving myself the gift of Elegance Foundation.”

“Thank you for a beautiful and inspiring program. My heart is looking forward to incorporating your wisdom into mine and sharing it with those I love and cherish.”

Are you ready to UPLIFT your life?

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Frequently Asked Questions

✤ What makes this program so successful?

This program is entirely UNIQUE on the market for a number of reasons.


1. Firstly, you recieve real insight into the principles, tools and "rules" from French high society, which is my family background. Unlike other etiquette coaches, I can reveal what is REALLY shared in aristocratic families from the inside - things most etiquette advisors are unaware of.


2. I have 25 years of experience in personal development, and over 12 years of professional practice as a therapist and life coach under my belt. I have PROVEN experince helping people gain true ease and confidence. My sweet spot of expertise is to help my clients step into the potential of who they really are.


3. I am able to share from a deep well of wisdom and life experience: as a woman married for over 27 years, as a mother of 4, as someone who has been through tough times too - I have lived a life and learned many lessons that enrich my teachings.


Finally, I always teach at three levels: the strategy (how to DO it concretely), the mindset (the thoughts underpinning the process), and the energy (embodying the lifestyle and elegance you desire, aligning it with who you are deeply).


In this program, you will not only be taught the principles, but are given CONCRETE tools to help you in real life on a daily basis. As a result, what you learn with me will serve you from now, into the future… that is the ripple effect of this program.


We are here for deep transformational benefits, not just a surface-level quick fix!

✤ I'm very busy. What if I don't have time to do the course now?

That’s ultimately up to you. My recommendation is if you give yourself 5 weeks, you will walk away with a completely new perspective on ELEGANCE, and with new inspiration and ideas to practice.


And if 5 weeks feels overwhelming to add to your existing “to-do” list, then I’m here to reassure you that this program is the ANTIDOTE to overwhelm. It’s designed to take you by the hand to find more ease, confidence and joy everyday to uplift your lifestyle - not to make life harder!

You have access to this course for at least one year.

✤ How much time will it take to complete this course?

That’s ultimately up to you. My recommendation is if you give yourself 5 weeks, you will walk away with a completely new perspective on ELEGANCE, and with new inspiration and ideas to practice.

And if 5 weeks feels overwhelming to add to your existing “to-do” list, then I’m here to reassure you that this program is the ANTIDOTE to overwhelm. It’s designed to take you by the hand to find more ease, confidence and joy everyday to uplift your lifestyle - not to make life harder!

✤ I have no elegance experience, will this program work for me?

In this class you will learn..

• How to let your personality and creativity glow elegantly.

• How to give yourself PERMISSION to uplift your lifestyle.

• Your style: how to define attract the right outfits FOR YOU.

✤ I already consider myself elegant, will this program work for me?

Due to the uniqueness of this program mixing concrete tools & deep, heart-centred principles to help you gain confidence and ease in all life situations - you will certainly learn a lot if you want to go from "good" to "great". You will also benefit from the French aristocratic insights that have never been taught in this way, as I am the only one on the market teaching this.


I consider elegance to be your natural essence glowing outwards into the world. It is all about alignment, self-love, embodiment and becoming who you are: for yourself first and for the world around you. This program will give you the keys to manifest a more fulfilling life.

✤ My body isn’t good looking for me now, can I still benefit from the ELEGANCE program?

This is a major point that motivated me to create this program. I truly believe that ELEGANCE comes from within, and that you are able, NOW, TODAY, to be ELEGANT with who you are and how you look. Elegance isn’t about being perfect, fitting into a standard box, or trying to be something other than YOU.


I see the natural elegance in my clients that they don’t see - and I am there to help YOU see it, and show you how to feel good rapidly and easily, without waiting for your body to be perfect. You just have to be willing to step into this with an open heart and mind, and you will see transformation before you know it!

✤ Are you offering a payment plan?

YES! You will find the payment options when you click to enroll.

✤ What is your refund policy?

I want to give you a chance to check out my teaching style, in case you are new here. So, if after reviewing the initial content, you feel this is not for you, please send me an email elegance@audedevathaire.com within 15 days after your purchase and I will process your refund.

✤ Can you guarantee specific results?

I love this program, and I fully believe in its principles and teachings. I do my best to deliver the lessons; I do not take things lightly. However, we are co-creators! Your success also depends on your readiness to apply the learnings. As I have no way of knowing what you will do with the program, I cannot guarantee results.


I AM confident in its potential to change your life if you allow it - the client testimonials on this page are from real, live people who went through my program and have seen real results from it.

✤ What if I can't afford this?

If you are on a tight budget, this may not be for you right now. But if you believe this is too expensive, then ask yourself: What is the cost of a pair of shoes, or a beautiful bag?
These things may be satisfying for a couple of days, but then, how are you going to deal with the questions you are asking yourself regularly about your lifestyle and how to be more elegant in the long run? How are you going to feel in front of the mirror tomorrow?

What is the cost of spending another year feeling like you do, buying things you are not really sure about, and not feeling so confident?


Know that as a life coach and an elegance coach, I will give you life-changing principles and processes to help you really shift your perspective, and inspire you for deep transformation. A bag or a pair of shoes can’t do that.

Aude de Vathaire - elegance@audedevathaire.com

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